“Men need respect, women need love” and other claims perpetuating cultures of abuse

Why write on this today? I thought I was going to write on a different topic today, but I felt so much energy around these issues below (*patriarchy, misogyny, cultures of abuse*) that this post happened instead. Then I began seeing it all around me - Twitter threads arguing whether women should be allowed to … Continue reading “Men need respect, women need love” and other claims perpetuating cultures of abuse

What does “spiritual but not religious” really mean, anyway?

Thus, the way that I will distinguish spirituality and religion is this: Spirituality is to believe that at one's core, you can tap into a guiding force of Love and that there is a powerful life force (whatever you call it) that moves us in the direction of healing and wholeness.

Idiot, Sojourning Soul: Book Review

You may or may not expect a book with the title of Idiot, Sojourning Soul: A Post-Secular Pilgrimage to be the type to make you both laugh out loud and have over 1,000 endnotes. But it is. Justin Rosolino combines tons of scholarly information with his spiritual journey and a heavy dose of wit to make for an informative read that keeps you intrigued: I was hooked by the first page.

The “freeze” fear response in religious trauma

The freeze response may occur in a religious context when people feel stuck or trapped in a harmful situation and they don't see viable options before them to get out or find safety. This could be anything from sexual, narcissistic, financial, or emotional abuse being perpetrated on church members, to simple faith deconstruction like questioning whether hell is real in a system where this is prohibited.

Tripp Fuller brews up the next essential seminary reading

Mark my words, people - one day we will refer to Tripp Fuller like we talk about famous theologians. In his most recent book Divine Self-Investment: An Open and Relational Constructive Christology, Fuller explores how we can find a new theological way forward between a Christian tradition that has often insisted on rules, dogma, and literalism, and a liberalizing culture that is becoming increasingly less concerned with religious tradition.

Purity culture and parenting after deconstruction

Anybody else raised in purity culture? You know, no sex before marriage, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, purity rings, really awful metaphors about how premarital sex degrades girls' value, belief that girls' bodies cause boys and men to stumble, etc... (*raises hand*). If you were raised in 90s and early 2000s evangelical culture like I was, you know it's a whole lifestyle. And often, a cause of much shame and trauma*.

Ideologies of fear vs love

Joe Biden is President. Kamala Harris is a historic Vice President. A 22-year-old poet stole all our hearts, and she referenced Micah and vines and fig trees like I did a couple weeks ago! When I grow up can I be her, please? Executive orders are being signed, an impeachment trial is being planned, all … Continue reading Ideologies of fear vs love